By Lucy Karen Clay with Anne Severance ( Clay, Chapter 4, p. 29 )
“I feel like we are already married in a way.” ~ Jacob
On 10-10-10 we celebrated what would be most similar to a “betrothal” in Jewish customs. What few people ever knew was that when Jacob entered Heaven, I did lose a husband. Jacob took extreme measures to ensure that I would be taken care of if disaster were to strike or if anything were to happen to him before we were able to move forward in our relationship. Meanwhile, he immediately began to do everything in his power to insure that I was as healthy as I could possibly be and that I had everything I needed. It was an absolute delight to begin to live as a married couple, but sometimes almost unbearable to leave one another in the evenings while following guidelines for the Jewish betrothal period. I have cherished his intent and dedication on the front end without any expectation from me in return. His level of commitment to me before an actual public wedding ceremony could take place certainly set the bar in terms of experiencing “God’s design and order.” It is almost unheard of in this day and time. Not only were we misunderstood by many, but Jacob was also misunderstood for many years because of the private nature of his own battle with ALS which he courageously fought and won victoriously with the Lord’s leading for seven years before he shared it with me. At last he was able to share that load with someone else. None of this was anything that I felt was appropriate to discuss or share at the time, yet it is another lesson of obedience and the blessings that follow by doing things God’s way. We learned to rely upon God alone.
“The Lord your God in your midst, The Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.”
New King James Version (NKJV)
After I heard this sermon, i was speechless while revisiting in my mind the many cyclical events of our times together when Jack took me around Whole Foods, The Produce Place or Trader Joe’s on Friday afternoons. It seemed that regardless of the circumstances, one of his priorities was for me to choose fresh flowers! Of course I loved that and even one lady used to remark of the smile on his face after my bouquet selection. Never once did I put it together that flower day was on Friday afternoons, before sundown.
Then, he typically stopped at a quaint little spot, “Alpha Bakery” for me to select a special desserts or a loaf of bread. Sometimes I found this special Brioche loaf of bread waiting for us in his kitchen or bag of groceries in my cottage! The next part of this sermon which was familiar to me was the lighting of the candle…Jack kept candles around his home and so did I but it was typically, on Friday evenings, when he stepped behind me for a long pause to hold me tightly… just unbelievable when I now remember. All along he was indeed intentional about everything.
Now for the gifts! Well, since my own father was a traveling salesman and returned on Friday afternoons, interestingly enough, would you believe he brought us gifts every single Friday also? Pretty unbelievable, isn’t it? Yes, I know. Dad is not Jewish but loving, thoughtful and generous. So, while Jack frequently had a little something for me…often, the Friday ‘gifts’ were not all that unusual since that is what I was accustomed to. Incidentally, now I know…I continue to relish in this “betrothal” with my own Heavenly Father whose glorious return is soon. There is a deeper and much more significant meaning for all of us as Children of the Most High God.
Jack had a gift of encouragement which I was fortunate to be on the receiving end frequently, yet, sometimes I could tell that he had maybe even already written down what he was going to say to me on the weekends – Friday evenings now that I think back… These prayers of blessing and words of love were “part of the package.”
The long meal….! Oh, how he loved to prepare meals for me. He also pick up food from some of the best places in town but never once allowed me to do one thing. No television, cell phones, just quiet, still time together. It was wonderful.
All of these things were typical of his behavior, yet, it was much more focused between Friday and Saturday evening.
Saturday afternoons it seemed important that we do something outside!!! We held hands, walked arm in arm, laughed or discussed what God had done in our lives during the past week or even that day.
Then, to top it off…I even asked my own father at one point what the deal was with the three stars!!! The reason was because Jack used to always bring it up!!!!!!!!!!!! On Saturday evenings we used to stand outside together as he asked me if I could count three stars! How romantic, I thought! It was.
Well, now the mystery solved. At least to some degree…
God created the Sabbath for us. We can look forward to it. It is Significant. Still
The Bride of Christ is symbolic of the Church In Waiting – Betrothal – The Bridegroom is coming back!
The Calah Identity In the ancient Hebrew marriage, the bridegroom comes to the house of the bride and proposes marriage. If the woman accepts, she’s now the bride, the Calah. The two are separated for about a year. The Calah still lives at her house, but she’s no longer of it; she’s of the bridegroom now. Everything looks the same, but is now different because she belongs to the bridegroom. She’s not bound by the old house anymore. That’s where you are right now. Messiah came to this world, to your life to propose, and you said yes. You’re now the Calah. The wedding day is coming, but you’re still in the old house. The old circumstances may look the same, but you’re not of it. You belong to the new life; the bridegroom. You’re free from your circumstance, problem, past, your sin. Stop living by what is around you. Remember who you are and whose you are. Live for the Bridegroom. The more betrothed you live, the freer you will be from this world. For the Calah is not bound by the house.
Daily Sapphires : Rabbi Johnathan Cahn Today’s Mission: Live as the Calah today. You are no longer of this world, or your circumstance, or your past. Break free of these things.
BETROTHED: Committed to Love, Light and LIFE! By Lucy Karen Clay with Anne Severance
PS I am a Gentile, born and raised Southern Baptist. I realize much of this is very new and terribly foreign to many people. However, I have lived it and can testify that God’s ways are best. There is nothing like observing the Sabbath REST – His Way.
By Lucy Karen Clay